I have been online dating with a man and a few things seemed odd so,I googled the name Terry Ken Hargrave and his name came up on www.bustathief.com site. This man has been chasing me on the online dating site match.com (Australia), he emailed me first(very charming with an Swedish acsent). This is what I found:
Terry Hargrave Ken gave me the same sob story as above however his wife died 3 years ago in child birth and his parents died 10 years ago, told me i was a vision, the only woman he could ever love, blah blah blah etc …
My Terry is using the name TERRY KEN HARGRAVE he lives in London with Lucy his 3 year old Daughter. He is a Civil Engineer(Contractor) His mother died 10 years ago, his dad when he was a boy and wife at child birth. He has told me that he has to go to Nigeria-West Africa as he has a 1.2 Million dollars contract there and is coming to Australia to see me in a couple of weeks. He rings me on my mobile and has begged me to carry it on me all the time. He told me I was the love of his life and he was my husband.
On the dating site Match.com Terry Ken Hargraves is using the user name neck79 and the only way I picked it is because his photos changed.
If you guys want to catch me he is coming to Australia soon.
This post was submitted by Donna.
September 25th, 2009 at 11:01 pm
Oh my, there is a guy that is telling me similar, he’s 41, Olympia on Match.com, and his daughter Lucy is 9, he’s in Oxford, UK, a civil engineer, and is falling in love with me, he’s not saying much abot traveling to US, but is talking daily via mail and cell, but nothing really strange, and already spoke to his daughter. What’s the scam, I don’t have money for him, so I’m not sure why he would call or email me. Please tell me more
September 25th, 2009 at 11:03 pm
Also, he tells me he’s Terry Ken Haggans. Oh god, if he’s a fake, this is so sad.
September 26th, 2009 at 7:13 pm
Faith Google his name!! and see if it comes up.
This Terry Ken Hargrave has not left me alone but I have blocked him completely now. He came back online and told me that he was not Terry Ken Hargrave that his real name is Steven and he was black from Nigeria and still wants me to go to Nigeria to meet with him so he can explain everything to me. He told me he loved me with all his heart and that he works on his own.
**Another scammer has contacted me here in Australia today. His name is CHARLES PIPPEN Canwebeone11 on Match.com has someone else’s photo and said he was currently in Africa. He said he already had me on his messenger, I said where in Nigeria and he said yes, he is looking after 37 children, clothing, feeding and teaching them. I asked him ’so he was not part of the Nigerian scammers’ and I said ‘I did not have any money’ he logged off without answering me back. I Googled his name and it didn’t come up so far. Donna
September 26th, 2009 at 7:30 pm
Faith:
I have Googled Terry Ken Haggens could not find anything on him. But this doesn’t say he is not a scammer. Please be careful tho!
Donna
October 5th, 2009 at 6:56 am
Oh my god,
I have been chatting with a guy named Terry Ken Hargraves for the past month now. At first it started all sweet but then he would tell me i am his wife. I replied that it was too soon and he backed off a bit for a while. Currently he is telling me he is in Nigeria for business and that he is having trouble with his credit card and has asked me to send money. I am not stupid enough to send money to someone i barely know. Now reading the above story it is the same story he is selling to me. I am sad though at first he seemed pretty genuine. Who knows how many hearts he has broken.
October 24th, 2009 at 8:21 am
Ladies, I have had an ongoing six week romance with a man calling himself terry ken haggans. He listed himself as Olympia on match.com and contacted me. He has been super romantic refering to me as his wife. He is a civil engineer widower with a 9 year old daughter named Lucy living in spain currently working on a large contract there. I had my suspicions just because his romantic rhetoric seemed so canned and like he was cutting and pasting comments on our IM’s. He is very convincing and repeatedly uses the phrase” I will love you with my heart, body and soul”. He repeats a lot of same romantic comments. He told me he was of german descent and moved to london as a boy because his father died. His mother died ten years ago and his wife three years ago. He has my cell phone number and his is 44-703-5637979. He just asked me to wire him money because of a tax problem and I was devastated. I really believed him up to this point. Then I went and googled him and found out he has been doing this type of scam for at least a year. He told me he had a huge house in the SW area of london, four cars and two motorcyles. He had his daughter Lucy talk to me online and took her with him to spain for his contract. I have never felt so violated in my life and I have to say I feel really sad. Sad for myself and for the other woman this predator has obviously involved. If I can help anyone esle with this just say that smart and loving and caring women are taken in by this sort of scam and to not blame yourself. But do not send any money.
October 26th, 2009 at 5:15 am
I have the exact same story as Kathleen – it has been going on since mid Sept and this past weekend he told me sad story about Lucy and then wanted to get on IM to tell me more about it. That is when he asked for money – right then I knew something was not right. I told him I have no money. Then the next day he said he just needed a couple of hundred and that is when I started to search out on romance scams. One of his photos that he uses is on roomancescams.org – i sent them additional ones – especially the one of the little girl he is claiming to be his daughter. Because he did most of the callling I didn’t think it was a scam. But it is. Be careful of any one named Terry Ken.
October 30th, 2009 at 7:01 pm
One other thing about scammer Terry Ken – he is very articulate, both in writing and on the phone. I have done some research on the internet and many of the posts have blogged that he has poor grammer, but the guy that I spoke to seemed very well educated. We discussed project management, economic impact to the construction industry. So ladies be careful – the if this is a ring, the current Terry Ken is very charming both in emails, IM and on the phone. And he even has a young tween girls who spoke to me on the phone several times. Thanks.
October 31st, 2009 at 10:36 pm
hi i am still in contact with terry ken hargraves. The latest in our relationship was him flying over here to meet with me on the 30th october. I spoke with him on the phone and he told me he was in the taxi on the way to the airport. He was supposed to call me upon arrival at the airport to give me his flight number so i could pick him up at the airport upon arrival. After a couple of hours i did not hear from him so i called his phone number only to receive a message saying it was unreachable. I tried for a further 2 hours to no avail. At 3am the next morning i received a phone call from a woman with a nigerian accent claiming to be a doctor at a nigerian hospital and that she was contacting me about a terry and lucy hargraves. When i informed her that i knew them she told me they had been in a car accident on the way to the airport. She told me she was calling me from his phone that she found in his bag. My number apparently was the only number she could find. She then proceeded to tell me that he was in a coma and that lucy was suffering from internal bleeding. She then stated that she had paid out of her own pocket for their treatment. I told her i was not his wife and that i was only a friend and that they were on their way here to meet me. She called me numerous times at rediculous times of the night keeping me updated on their condition. On saturday i received a call from terry himself telling me he was ok. I also talked with lucy on the phone later that afternoon. The calls from the doctor has since stopped but i am still in contact with terry. I am feeling this is some kind of scam as the doctor has asked that i pay for half of his hospital bills by monday or she will not let them leave the country. I am not prepared to do this and have told terry my intentions. He is still in contact and has not asked me for money but am still holding my guard up. He still keeps telling me he is coming to see me and how much he loves me and that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. He even had me check out local schools for which lucy could attend while he is here. I pray to god he is telling the truth i would hate to think otherwise. we have developed a great talking relationship and have been really open with each other since the beginning. The terry i talk to has good communication skills.
November 6th, 2009 at 5:33 pm
melissa,
Terry Ken is everything that has been written above about him. He is very articulate and convincing. I was so depressed when I realized it was just a big scam. My only hope is that by writing about it I help someone esle because it still devastates me.I felt so close to him and felt like I could be a mother to his child not having one of my own. He is very seductive and weaves elaborate lies going to places you would never think anyone would go.I think other people are in on this scam as well. Please do what is best for you and stop all contact with him. Once he figures out you are not going to send money he will cut off contact with you because that is what thes scammers do. I wish you the best.
November 7th, 2009 at 5:13 pm
This further confirms that it is a network of scammers using the same name. The articulate and convincing charmer is the version of Terry Ken I met, albeit in a different name. Everything written here of Terry Ken is the same scammer I met, only in the name of Thomas Moore, Civil Engineer from London, England. He made 2 slips about walking on the beach, and giving me the address of his beautiful house with a pool which turned out to be a shanty block of council flats on the Google satellite map. I went to school in London and know there is no beach. He avoided answering when I asked about it, and also avoided any discussion I initiated about London. Lagos, Nigeria has a beach, and that’s where he is from. I asked for his company name but could not find it on the London business directory. He could not provide his office phone number when I asked either.
But true to boot, he is no doubt a very well-educated scammer, well-versed in business lingo in economics and construction project management, articulate about modern day business practices and methodology. And the photo he sent me of a drop-dead gorgeous caucasian man continues to make me swoon to this day. And I spoke with Lucy too. He sent me 2 thumbnail sized photos of her, one seemed to be a white girl and the other is quite definitely black. So if we pay attention, the red flags are all there.
But no, he never got my money, and pretty much left me alone after that to preoccupy himself with new marks.